Tuesday, January 12, 2010

HypnoBirthing Session One - Recap

I know my blog is primarily Raw food centered, but the raw lifestyle can reach into so many other areas of life that are natural, beautiful, eco friendly, etc. It all fits, if you ask me. I also have many women writing to me that they are glad I'm sharing my personal journey with fertility and pregnancy, the things I'm experiencing, the things I'm learning. So, with that introduction...

On Sunday, we attended our first HypnoBirthing session in preparation for our future homebirth. HypnoBirthing is a special alternative to the traditional Lamaze and Bradley classes that many folks take. HypnoBirthing might sound a little "out there" to some, but it's been pretty amazing so far. The basic premise of HypnoBirthing, according to HypnoBirthing.com, is that it's a unique method of relaxed, natural childbirth education enhanced by self-hypnosis techniques. Sounds good to me. :)

Even though we've only had one session, my take is that it's basically getting into a meditative, relaxed state during child birth, which can help the mom to better cope with it. I saw a few videos on YouTube and most women usually look like they're having a nice, relaxed birth. In a number of cases, you wouldn't even know they're experiencing child birth. That probably sounds crazy to some people. On the other hand, there are some people who went through HypnoBirthing classes only to find that they couldn't really use the techniques when it came to birthing time. I learned that one important thing is practice, practice, practice. The more I practice the HypnoBirthing techniques, the better my chances are that HypnoBirthing will be an awesome experience for me. Ongoing, daily listening of the cds is important, as well as reading the HypnoBirthing book about 4 times, attending all classes, and practicing breathing. There is more to it but I'm not that far into the course to describe it.

I read the HypnoBirthing book before I got pregnant, and I've been listening to the hypnobirthing relaxation and affirmation cds for many months now. They were instrumental in helping me relax for our fertility adventure with Mini-IVF. As far as I was concerned, this wasn't going to be just a tool for birthing, I was eager to implement these elements to my whole life.

Our session on Sunday focused on a few things.

1) Language - there is a preferred HypnoBirthing language that should be used. For example: We say "surge" instead of contraction. We say "birth companion" instead of coach (for the husband or partner). We say "birthing time/month" instead of due date. We say "birth breathing" instead of pushing. We say "pressure/sensation/tightening" instead of pain or contractions. Personally, I really like the suggested words. I feel much more relaxed saying the word "surge or pressure" instead of contraction or pain. The HypnoBirthing language relaxes me and the medicalized language tenses me. The next step will be teaching this to the grandmas who will probably attend the homebirth.

2) "Emergency Room" vs "Healing Room" - These are not actual rooms, but rather they are states of mind. In life we should strive to only be in the emergency (stressed, high alert, tense) state about 2-5% of our lives at the most, during those rare instances that legitimately require a fight or flight response such as emergencies, etc. The rest of our time should be enjoying the healing room. :) Most likely, we all spend more than 2-5% in the emergency room, but being aware of this and making a concerted effort to increase the time in the healing room is a good start. When we're in the healing room, our breathing is deep and relaxed, our digestive system is relaxed and running efficiently, and we feel good. When we're in the emergency room, we're tense, on alert, breathing is more labored, digestion is put on hold, etc.

This becomes important during child birth because if a woman is in the emergency room state of mind during this time, her cervix can tighten up, thereby making birthing more difficult and increasing the chances of "special circumstances." (That's more HypnoBirthing language... we say "special circumstances" instead of complications. Isn't that much nicer? I think any mom who plans a home birth and ends up having to go to the hospital will be in a much softer state of mind if she considers it due to special circumstances, rather than complications.)


3) Limp Lucy (Mom) and Gorilla (Dad) - Our HypnoBirthing instructor, Sherry Gilbert, had two little stuffed animals that she used to represent the birthing parents. Mine was Limp Lucy, which was a soft white bear that had really limp and loose arms and legs. All I could think about when I saw her was, "Ahhhhh..." Limp Lucy is totally relaxed and demonstrates the state in which I should strive for child birth, and how I should feel and look when doing my Calming Breathing. Heck, I want to be Limp Lucy all the time. The birth companion, on the other hand, is a protective gorilla. Need I say more? My husband found this image from the following article and he forwarded it to me with the following caption: Picture of me at homebirth when pizza guy comes to the door (my husband also noted that he is the gorilla on the left, pizza guy on the right - lol).


4) Surrounding myself with positive birthing stories
Our HypnoBirthing instructor gave us each one of these pins. I love it! She explained the importance of hearing positive birthing stories... and how it can do more harm than good when people share their birthing horror stories. She said that as I grow in size and my pregnancy becomes more obvious, I might be surprised how some strangers will feel compelled to share their "not so great" stories, and by wearing this pin I might be able to shield myself from that.

My HypnoBirthing homework for the week:
1) Go to the "healing room" daily
2) Listen to rainbow relaxation track on the HypnoBirthing cd once a day
3) Listen to affirmation track on the HypnoBirthing cd once a day
4) Practice my "Calming Breathing" 5X/day
5) My husband and I are to each visualize the home birth independently. Then, we need to discuss it and compare visualizations. That will be fun!

Here are some neat statistics about homebirthing experiences.
Here is a good article on WebMD, Hypnosis in the Delivery Room

And... here is a quick video showing HypnoBirthing in action. I noticed when they edited the video, they actually used the word "contraction" - oops!



Have any of you used HypnoBirthing? What did you think?

36 comments:

  1. Hi Kristen,

    Not hypno birthing but I did the Bradley method with both of my babies. A similar approach with relaxation and letting your body do the amazing job it was designed to do. It was amazing, empowering, and seriously the best 2 moments of my entire life. I LOVED the whole birthing process. Actually being able to feel the process is truly incredible and something I would not give up for anything!

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  2. Hi Allison,
    That's so sweet. Thank you for sharing!

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  3. hey lovely bean~
    i'm six months pregnacious, and my love and I did a CalmBirth workshop - it's kind of an Australian version of Hypnobirthing. It was absolutely beautiful - so much so we are going back to do another full weekend of it a moon before baby arrives to go back into that lovely meditative space again.
    Have you read the amazing book "Spiritual Midwifery"? It is one of my favourites... and totally made me change my mind about birthing!

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  4. I have not read that book, but I've read her other two books, plus many others on the same topic. I'm loving the space that I'm in... glorious!

    Congrats to you!

    Cheers,
    Kristen

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  5. Wow what an amazing video - I actually started crying!

    I think it's so ironic and comical that people have such strong reactions against home-birthing/hypno-birthing/alternative labor and delivery methods, and yet you watch a video like this and wonder...what was the problem? Who was protesting? How was the birth any different than what nature intended? Obviously there is no answer, and thus videos like this and blogs such as yours can hopefully change people's perceptions and eventually, their minds as well.

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  6. I loved that book, and my husband and I both read it while I was pregnant. Sometimes he would sit in the bathroom with me and read it to me while I hung out in a warm tub of water, and it was amazing how relaxing it was. During labor, my favorite was the image of a ribbon unwinding around my uterus - it helped a lot.
    Your gorilla and pizza guy image cracked me up. A few hours before our son was born, my husband and the midwives were hungry, and at some point, one of them ordered pizza. When the pizza guy arrived, the backup midwife answered the door while I was upstairs with my husband and the other midwife, apparently yelling quite loudly. It still makes me laugh to imagine what that poor pizza guy must have thought :)
    You're such a prepared mama, and your baby's birth is going to be an amazing experience. Enjoy your hypno-birthing practice!

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  7. Hi Frugal Babe,
    That's an awesome story. I love how your husband read to you. I always read to my husband when we're in the car (he's driving of course). :)

    Cheers XOXO,
    Kristen

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  8. Hi Judy's Nutrition,
    Thanks for that comment... it's insightful. :)

    Isn't birth like this so beautiful? I tear up every time.

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  9. I didn't do hypno-birthing, but I took the Bradley classes and my husband and I attribute our successful home births to that class.

    I LOVE the pin. When I was preparing for my first born, I avoided most conversations with other women who had hospital births. It seemed like they all wanted to tell me about their horrible birth stories.

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  10. Shell Walker was my Midwife for both of my pregnancies, and Sherry Gilbert was also my Hypnobirthing instructor. I had wonderful experiences with both of them and can not say enough positive things about the quality of care and instruction I received! Both of my home births were quick, peaceful, empowering, very manageable pain-wise, and absolutely everything I wanted them to be. I'm very much indebted to Shell and Sherry for giving me the tools I needed to achieve the outcome I'd hoped for. You are in GREAT hands all-around, and I wish you only the best on your journey into, and through, parenthood.

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  11. Hi Erin,
    Whoo hoo! Thanks for the encouraging feedback. It's great to hear from others who used the same resources/people as me. Thanks for chiming in!

    Cheers,
    Kristen

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  12. "Surrounding myself with positive birthing stories"--SO Important, this is awesome you are doing this and block out the negative nelly's.

    I didnt use formal hynobirthing but went into what I will call a deep, yoga, meditative breathing and mental state and I had a drug free, totally natural, beautiful, birth.

    YOU CAN DO IT!!!! and I have had friends who swear by hynobirthing AND a couple friends who are actually HB instructors they fell in love with HB so much :)

    And if i wasnt leaving this minute to go teach yoga, I'd bring some raw balls over to you right now too :)
    xoxo

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  13. This is so interesting! I just love learning all this stuff! Unfortunately, I don't have much of a home birth option, due to my crohn's. Since there could very well be complications with the birth. But let's hope that doesn't happen!! I just have to stay on the safe side, I think my family and in laws would have a heart attack in worry if I told them I wanted to home birth because of the crohns. Maybe my next baby, when my crohn's is gone! ;)

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  14. Hi Lauren,
    MANY women use hypnobirthing at hospitals, so you can still look into it. :) Remember... "special circumstances" instead of the ugly word complications. ;)

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  15. So glad to hear that you are surrounding yourself with positive birth stories. Good for you! It never ceases to amaze me that women will launch into horror stories in front of a pregnant mama. No WAY!

    I loved giving birth to my children at home and each of them have a special story about their day. As a matter of fact, we tell them each their birth story every year on their birthday as part of our celebration of their lives. =)

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  16. I love Limp Lucy and Gorilla, how perfect!

    Both my sons (now 10 & 5) were born by c-section. Tyler because they couldn't get him to turn (he was sideways, yeah I looked a little weird) and Dylan because the hospital i had him at was small and required repeat c-sections. before I found out I was going to have a c-section with Ty I was all about a natural, drug-free birth. My mom had super easy deliveries with all 3 of us, so i figured I could do it too. When I was told I wasn't going to be able to have the delivery i wanted I was crushed. Instead of being the one doing it, pushing this little life into the world i was just going to be laying there while it happened. However, because the birth was going to be scheduled my dad who lives in Mass (I'm in Cali) could fly in and be here for the birth.

    So even though it wasn't what I originally wanted it wasn't so bad of a thing after all. And seeing that perfect tiny baby, well, at that moment I didn't care how he came into the world, just that he had.

    So here's to a happy pregnancy, an easy delivery and a beautiful tiny baby.

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  17. I love birth videos, I always tear up. She was so calm, that was beautiful. And, if you do express some loud noises, it's alright too! :) I was pretty calm during both my labors, until the end. Low moaning helped a lot. I didn't do hypnobirthing, but the first time around we took a Birthing From Within class which was simply awesome!!! I highly recommend taking a class, it was very very empowering. The book is great also. Love reading about your pregnancy journey! Mary

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  18. We did hypnobirthing, by just reading the book but not taking the classes. I probably should have insisted that we take the classes. When it came down to actually having my son what I wanted was for them to tell me I was awesome and model the breathing for me. I wanted to "breath down the baby" like they said in hypnobirthing was best but I think I said in one of my other comments that I had really bad back labor so they told me when I could start pushing. (I wanted to push the baby out quicker because I was hurting so much in my back and lower abs.) Then they were really coaching me to push a lot. This was both good and bad because I needed to know what to do but they were saying so much that I felt like I was pushing and pushing but not getting anywhere! And not only that but I was so exhausted! Once labor kicked in, it went so fast that I wasn't able to eat much and so there wasn't much inside of me giving me energy. (The biggest thing I would change for next time if I could!) I tried to make my body limp in the tub but only succeeded once or twice. I felt like I had to brace myself and have my husband keep pushing on my back. I think my pushes would have been better if I'd done kegels a lot more. Also don't take for granted the "massage" they tell you to do. That helped me to tear less than I might have.
    We did make sure to have soft music playing in the background and that helped me to relax a little in between the rushes I was having. Mine wasn't a silent birth, but I sincerely hope that you get the kind of birth you imagine you would like to have. Visualizations are a great tool! :) If you are interested in reading my full birth story, it is on my family blog dated back in December. It is super long!

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  19. I know of a Mom with 3 hypno-birthed babies and she did very well with it.

    I don't have personal experience though since we used the Bradley method. But it helped us so much like yours will. I practiced, and I read and did all our homework, and I watched the videos that our midwife gave us....

    I think I was the only person I knew that was jumping up and down to have contractions. I remember being so excited that things were moving... I was giddy... So excited to see his face soon, people thought I was crazy not to be scared... I was PREPARED! :-) And besides the negative energy couldn't be good for either of us. So I went on my merry way... I laughed with joy when my water broke. I was bouncing around the center on an exercise ball... It was an amazing experience... I have more of the birth story that I won't share, but there was soo much good. And your story will be all yours... so exciting.

    And I love that pin. So many people have negative things to say, I really really wish I had one of those pins back then :-)

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  20. if I ever DARE give birth, I would probably try this. Anything to reduce pain and/or anxiety.

    Love the gorilla pic and metaphor. Are you really gonna order pizza?

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  21. Lol- no I doubt there will be pizza. I hope to have lots of raw stuff prepped for eating that day. Ok... Maybe vegan pizza... for my husband. ;) we'll see :)))

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  22. I love the pin! WEAR IT! I had all three of my babies at home. Each birth was wonderful and different. Having a home birth may have even saved my first daughter's life. She had a short umbilical cord, and the fact that there was no intervention in her birth let her come out in her own time and everything was perfect. So few mothers-to-be inform themselves as you are doing. What a wonderful gift you are giving to your baby, your family, and yourself!

    p.s. my friend did hypnobirthing with her third baby after two difficult (non hypno birthing) births. It was AMAZING. Good luck, Kristen!

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  23. Hi Megan,
    Thank you for your comment and story! :)

    Cheers XOXO,
    Kristen

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  24. I have a much-needed dental cleaning coming up and I'm dreading it. I'm lucky to have found a great, empathetic dentist with a reportedly soft touch, and I've been visualizing walking into her office and everything going smoothly. My boyfriend is taking the day off work to accompany me to my appointment, which I thought was so sweet until he said, "Don't worry, there won't be any pain during a cleaning." ... and I was like, WHOA WHOA WHOA, DON'T SAY "PAIN!" I wasn't even thinking of pain until you said it (or if I was, I wasn't specifically thinking of that nasty p-word).

    I felt a little OCD, getting tense over something so silly as a word. ... I actually remember similar things bothering me as a child, like my mom asking me during dinner if the entree was overcooked (well, if I hadn't already been thinking it, I certainly would be now!).

    so all of this hypnobirth stuff sounds very intuitive and exciting. I'm already looking forward to reading Monkey's birth story.

    (Dental stuff doesn't come close to the intensity of childbirth, of course, haha. ... but I'm nowhere near ready to get pregnant, so it's the closest parallel I could draw when I read this. And I really do think there's something to be said about what you get back when you put positive language/energy out there regarding ANYthing -- and when the people around you are doing the same, it's just an all-around magical experience, whether it's at the dentist or at a homebirth or in the workplace.)

    anyway, best of luck/strength with your birth, and thank you for sharing your journey! :)

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  25. Kristen,

    LOVE your blog...I'm an avid follower, although I've never left a comment.

    I love this post about hypnobirthing because I successfully hypnobirthed my second baby. I tried with my first, but my labor was long and my husband was all awkward and didn't know how to help me. We just didn't totally "get it", even though we felt we had prepared.

    What I learned with my second child is that a husband's support and willingness to be there with you is key (make sure you practice a lot!) Also, I switched from a doctor to a midwife and LOVED it! When I was about a "10" (after 30 hrs. of labor), the midwife held me while I was completely limp and we just rocked back and forth, like we were dancing! Another piece of advice -The tub is wonderful. I was singing to my ipod while birthing in the tub.
    I also got a doula to advocate for me and give me support (I was in a hospital).

    Know that your body and baby know EXACTLY what to do. Facilitate what they are trying to accomplish. Love it. Enjoy it. Find happiness in birthing.

    I'm so excited you're trying this route. I know you will have your perfect birth!!!!

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  26. Why did you choose Hypnotbirthing instead of Hypnobabies? I did Hypnobabies for my labor and it was incredibly helpful. The midwives all preferred the Hypnobabies system ot Hypnobirthing. I'm curious. Why did you go Hypnobabies?

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  27. HypnoBirthing came recommended along with the instructor we are lucky to have. I have heard great things about both. I think, and I could be wrong, but HypnoBirthing is more for couples because the birth companion plays an important role where hypnobabies might be more solo mom/baby driven. I think I read that somewhere a while back.

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  28. I've heard nothing but good things about hypnobirthing. I'll definitely look into it when I get pregnant again. :)

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  29. We used hypnobirthing for the first time with our last homebirth (baby number 5) and it was an amazing experience. Most of the time, no one could tell when I was having a contraction and I felt very much in control. She was a 10 lb 3 oz baby (my biggest) and not until the end did the thought ever cross my mind that I couldn't do it. Once a doubting thought enters, you know it is about to happen - the birth. Something in the mind needs to let go I think and then bam - there's the baby. We're expecting number 6 now and planning another home water birth with hypnobirthing. I need to get my cd and book out soon! Good luck!

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  30. After talking to my midwife yesterday I decided that the best method for me would have been "Birthing from within". Unlike hypnobirthing, it talks about how to handle labor when it gets really intense. I think I'll read it next time I'm pregnant and maybe even take a class for it. So I am recommending that now instead. I know you're already doing hypnobirthing classes but you could read that book in your spare time if you want a couple extra tricks just in case of super intense pain like I had. :)

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  31. Hi Capt'n Amazing's Wife,
    To be honest, from the description from Amazon and some of the reviews didn't particularly turn me on. I've gone to the page with the plan to possibly buy it twice now, and I just don't think it's for me. You bring up an interesting point regarding the extra tricks.

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  32. I just gave birth to my second child less than two weeks ago. I didn't use the hypnobirthing, but I worked with my midwives and did tons of visualization to prepare for the natural waterbirth. (I also had a natural waterbirth with my first). I knew it would be a beautiful birth, and it was, the visualizations helped a lot (as well as knowing what to expect the 2nd time around). It was blissful - the greatest gift besides my baby girl was getting so deeply in tune with my body and feeling it just doing the birth. It was very powerful and empowering. You will have an amazing experience, too!

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  33. I did Bradley with my son and wanted to do HB with my second but couldn't afford it. I have heard wonderful things about it. I will certainly take the class if we have number 3.

    The pin is a great idea. You do need to focus on the positive since so much the birthing experience involves controlling our own fears.

    We had to transfer to the hospital with my son, but had our little girl at home and it was an amazing experience. Here is our story if you are interested:
    http://livingslowly.wordpress.com/2009/06/11/baby-ember-is-here/

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  34. Hi Kristen -

    I just found your blog today. It's awesome! I did hypnobirthing with both of my children. It was amazing. It so inspired me, that I became a doula and have incorporated what I have learned from hypnobirthing to be able to help other moms. You will do great!

    Lisa

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  35. Hypnobirthing was the best thing ever created. It not only allowed me to enjoy my births,but it helps me in every day situations., headaches , lower back pain etc.
    So instead of taking taking asprin like most people do, i just stop and breath. It's great. I even implement hypnobirthing when i exercise.
    I guarantee fulfillment when using this method.

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